Relationship Trauma & Attachment Wounds: Private, One-to-One Therapy in Spain

Oasis Premium Recovery provides one-to-one residential treatment in Southern Spain for adults dealing with relationship trauma, betrayal trauma, and attachment wounds. If you are comparing locations, start with Rehab Spain, read One-to-One Therapy in Spain and Why Private Therapy in Spain Works, and see roundups at Rehab Clinics in Spain and Spain Treatment Centres. For broad comparisons, visit Luxury Rehab Clinics and Rehab UK vs Spain. To find us locally, see Clinic Near Me.

What we mean by relationship trauma and attachment wounds

Relationship trauma is the injury that happens in connection with another person. It can follow betrayal, abandonment, chronic criticism, emotional neglect, coercive control, or inconsistent caregiving. Attachment wounds shape core beliefs about safety and worth, and they often show up as anxious, avoidant, or disorganised patterns in adult relationships.

Anxious patterns: fear of rejection, constant reassurance seeking, difficulty holding boundaries.
Avoidant patterns: shutting down under pressure, minimising needs, retreating from intimacy.
Mixed or disorganised patterns: push–pull cycles, strong desire for closeness with rapid withdrawal.

How this presents in high-functioning adults

People pleasing, over-functioning at work, and perfectionism that masks shame or fear of loss.
Hypervigilance to tone, message timing, and perceived distance in partners and colleagues.
Trauma bonds that feel urgent and intense, followed by remorse and collapse.
Use of alcohol, stimulants, or work to regulate difficult emotions linked to relationships.
Somatic load: tension, poor sleep, appetite shifts, and fatigue after conflict or contact.

Why one-to-one works for attachment and relational injuries

Shame and fear of exposure can block progress in groups. A one-to-one format gives privacy, consistent attunement, and the clinical time required to unpick patterns without performance pressure. It also allows careful pacing of trauma work so the nervous system does not overload.

Your weekly clinical dose

Psychotherapy: 7 to 10 hours one-to-one focused on attachment, boundaries, and meaning making.
Skills and planning: 3 to 5 hours building communication, conflict repair, and relapse prevention.
Somatic regulation: 2 to 4 hours of TRE and gentle body-based work to stabilise arousal.
Integration time: protected space for practice, writing, and rest so gains consolidate.

Our approach

Your plan is built after assessment and reviewed weekly. We combine targeted psychotherapy with body-based regulation and practical routines that hold outside the residence.

Attachment-focused psychotherapy: map patterns, identify triggers, and rehearse new responses.
DBT skills for emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness.
MET Therapy to resolve ambivalence, align values, and turn goals into behaviours.
TRE and breathwork to reduce physiological load and improve sleep.
Parts-informed work: develop self leadership, reduce harsh inner criticism, and support grieving where needed.
Environment design: build calm morning and evening routines, and set clear rules for digital contact.

What we measure

Attachment triggers, conflict patterns, and repair attempts per week.
Sleep quality, stress markers, and nervous system load after contact with key people.
Boundary clarity and adherence in live situations.
Relapse risk markers such as alcohol use after arguments or isolation after rejection.

Example pathways

Anxious attachment with alcohol overuse

Week 1: map activation cycle, stabilise sleep, introduce DBT emotion regulation and TRE, replace evening alcohol with regulation blocks.
Week 2–4: attachment repair work, boundary plans for texting and social media, graded exposure to contact, aftercare with relapse prevention.

Avoidant shutdown with workaholism

Week 1: restore basic rhythm, somatic calming, values and motivation planning.
Week 2–4: practice safe disclosure, build conflict repair scripts, restructure work sprints with recovery time.

Trauma bond after betrayal

Week 1: safety plan, remove immediate triggers, sleep and nutrition stabilisation.
Week 2–6: grief work, meaning making, no-contact or structured-contact rules, partner or family sessions if appropriate.

Partner and family involvement

With your consent, we can schedule structured sessions to support repair or separation planning. Boundaries, communication frameworks, and support roles are agreed clearly to protect momentum.

Programmes and timelines

The Foundation Retreat for assessment and stabilisation.
The Restorative Path for structured, consistent therapy and skills practice.
The Regenerative Stay for deeper trauma work and integration.
The Signature Experience for fully bespoke, high-touch support.
Residence overview: The One-to-One Residence and daily life at Life at Oasis.

Relapse prevention for relationships

Personalised boundary rules and a written conflict repair map.
Slip drill for late-night texting or checking behaviours.
90-day calendar for exposure, repair attempts, and support calls.
Ongoing support with Lifetime Aftercare, Aftercare Support, and Life Skills and Relapse Prevention.

Admissions and practicalities

Confidentiality: discreet admissions and a low-exposure residence.
Travel: routes into Málaga and nearby hubs with private ground transfer to the residence.
Work and family: limited remote work considered after stabilisation. Family involvement is planned case by case.

Frequently asked questions

Is this suitable if I feel worse in groups?

Yes. Our format is one-to-one as standard. It reduces exposure and gives the time needed for careful pacing and real practice.

What if my partner will not engage?

We focus on your safety and stability first. Progress does not depend on partner involvement. If they choose to join later, we can include structured sessions.

Will we process trauma memories?

We proceed only when you are stable enough. Early work focuses on regulation, boundaries, and safety. Deeper processing is paced and reviewed weekly.

How long should I plan for?

Many clients begin with a focused foundation and extend in two to four week blocks to consolidate change. We propose length after assessment.

Do you work with co-occurring issues?

Yes. We frequently support clients with alcohol, drugs, anxiety, depression, and eating disorders.

How to start

Send a confidential enquiry. Share a short outline of your situation.
Book a pre-admission assessment. We review history, risks, and goals via secure video.
Receive a tailored plan. We propose programme length, focus areas, and practical steps.
Plan travel. We arrange arrival timings and private transfer to the residence.
First 72 hours. Stabilise sleep, nutrition, and routine while beginning focused work.
Step down. Continue with structured aftercare and relationship skills practice at home.

Speak in confidence. If you are dealing with relationship trauma or attachment wounds, contact Oasis Premium Recovery for a no-obligation assessment and a tailored plan.

Calm one-to-one therapy room for attachment-focused work in Spain
Boundary and communication planning worksheets on a desk
Private Mediterranean garden path for reflective walks
Evening wind down routine in a quiet bedroom suite

Healing Relationship Trauma & Attachment Wounds – Private Therapy in Spain