Self-Esteem & Identity Recovery in Spain: Private, One-to-One Luxury Rehab

Q: What if I also have anxiety or ADHD

We plan for co-occurrence and coordinate with physicians where medications are involved.

Q: How long should I plan for

Many clients begin with two weeks and extend in two to four week blocks to consolidate change.

Oasis Premium Recovery is a private, one-to-one residential programme in Southern Spain for adults whose self esteem and sense of identity have been eroded by stress, criticism, trauma, perfectionism or role changes. We help you map the story you have been living, repair shame cycles and rebuild a practical identity that holds in daily life. If you are comparing settings, start with Rehab Spain, understand our model in One-to-One Therapy in Spain and Why Private Therapy in Spain Works, and review scope at What We Treat. For the wider landscape, see Luxury Rehab Clinics, Rehab UK vs Spain and Spain Treatment Centres.

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What this covers · Signs and patterns · Why one-to-one works · Assessment · Our approach · Skills and practices · Your clinical dose · Example pathways · Partner and family support · Relapse prevention and aftercare · Programmes · Admissions · FAQ

Self esteem and identity work: what this page covers

Identity erosion: living by criticism or comparison, losing a sense of preference, chronic self doubt, imposter feelings.
Shame cycles: perfectionism, people pleasing, overwork, late night scrolling, collapse, repeat. See Work and Burnout and Internet Addiction.
Role disruption: redundancy, exits, injury, divorce, new parenthood, relocation, grief and caregiving.
Attachment themes: anxious or avoidant patterns, fear of rejection, difficulty with boundaries. See Relationship Trauma and Attachment Wounds.
Co-occurrence: anxiety, low mood, ADHD, sleep collapse, and body image concerns within Eating Disorders.

Common signs and patterns we see

Inner critic dominance: constant self talk that is harsh, global and absolute.
Approval loops: living by likes, metrics or performance feedback. Social media rules the mood for the day.
Boundary drift: saying yes when you mean no, rescuing, or disappearing when conflict rises.
Identity by output: worth equals achievement, physique, role or income.
Physiology impact: poor sleep, caffeine spikes, late night scrolling, low energy and isolation.

Why one-to-one care is effective for identity work

Identity work is intimate. Group formats add exposure and make honest practice harder. One-to-one care provides privacy, a stable relationship with a small team, and enough time to change the beliefs and habits that keep shame and comparison in place. We pair deep psychotherapy with simple routines and device rules so gains hold at home.

Assessment: mapping the story you have been living

Belief map: core beliefs about worth, competence and belonging, where they came from, and how they get triggered.
Attachment and history: early caregiving patterns, criticism and praise patterns, trauma and loss timelines.
Role and performance: work or study identity, body image and appearance rules, perfectionism standards.
Devices and exposure: platforms, feeds, notification load, night use and comparison triggers.
Sleep and physiology: latency, night waking, morning readiness, appetite and movement.
Risk and safety: self harm indicators, alcohol or sedative reliance, binge and restriction patterns. Physician coordination where indicated. We do not prescribe or alter doses.

Our approach to self esteem and identity recovery

DBT-informed work: regulation of shame and anxiety, distress tolerance for exposure moments, interpersonal skills for boundary setting. See DBT Therapy in Spain.
Motivational work (MET): align values with daily choices and convert decisions into simple rules. See MET Therapy.
Somatic regulation: TRE, breathwork and gentle movement to reduce hyperarousal and anchor safety in the body.
Narrative reframing: name the old script, define a new one that fits your values, and practise it in small, repeatable steps.
Environment design: device governance, curated feeds, notification hygiene, and a wind down routine that protects sleep and mood.
Values and preference work: rebuild a map of what matters, what you enjoy, and how you want to relate to work, people and time.

Skills and practices you will take home

Boundary scripts: short phrases for no, not now, and yes with limits.
Self talk audit: recognise critic language and replace with accurate, kind and actionable language.
Exposure ladders: graded steps to practise visibility without collapse, online and offline.
Social media rules: device zoning, time caps, delay rules for posting, curated follows, and scheduled review windows. See Internet Addiction.
Sleep and light routines: fixed wake time, morning light, evening buffer, and low friction wind down. See Sleep Disorder Treatment.
Workload hygiene: meeting density caps, deep work blocks, and a close-down ritual. See Work and Burnout.

Your weekly clinical dose

Psychotherapy: 7 to 10 hours one-to-one focused on belief change, shame repair and relationship skills.
Skills and planning: 3 to 5 hours on boundary scripts, device rules, exposure ladders and routine design.
Somatic regulation: 2 to 4 hours of TRE and body based work to stabilise arousal and improve sleep.
Integration time: protected practice, nature and rest so change consolidates.

Two example pathways

High performer with imposter feelings and perfectionism

Week 1: belief and role map, device and work rules, DBT regulation, MET values, TRE, create first boundary and exposure ladder.
Week 2: graded visibility at work, meeting density caps, curated feeds, partner alignment if helpful, aftercare plan.
Weeks 3 to 4: stress test around presentations and travel, slip drills for late nights, step down to structured follow ups.

Identity loss after redundancy and relationship breakdown

Week 1: safety and sleep rebuild, grief mapping, device curfew, DBT distress tolerance, TRE, first values and preference list.
Week 2: activation plan with small wins, boundary scripts for family and friends, social exposure ladder, aftercare calendar.
Weeks 3 to 4: review of new routines, job search or study structure, relapse prevention for anniversaries, step down.

Partner and family support

With your consent, we facilitate brief alignment sessions that protect dignity and safety. We focus on realistic support, respect for privacy, and clear boundaries. Options include simple check-ins, device visibility you choose to offer, and shared calendars for high-risk dates.

Relapse prevention and aftercare

You leave with boundary scripts, a device charter, an exposure ladder, a values plan and a 90 day calendar. Ongoing support includes Lifetime Aftercare and Aftercare Support, plus Life Skills and Relapse Prevention. We can liaise with local providers of your choosing. We are not an emergency service.

Programmes

The Foundation Retreat for assessment and stabilisation.
The Restorative Path for structured daily practice.
The Regenerative Stay for deeper change and complex co-occurrence.
The Signature Experience for fully bespoke, high touch support.
Residence overview: The One-to-One Residence and daily life at Life at Oasis.

Admissions and practicalities

Confidentiality: discreet admissions and a low exposure residence protect privacy.
Travel: straightforward routes into Málaga and nearby hubs with private ground transfer.
Medical liaison: where medications are involved, a physician sets the plan. We coordinate with consent. We do not prescribe or alter doses.

Frequently asked questions

Is this therapy for low confidence or for deeper trauma

Both. We work at belief level and routine level. Where trauma is present we pace carefully and coordinate if medical input is needed. See Trauma and PTSD.

Do you work with social media and body image issues

Yes. We install device and content rules, create exposure ladders, and rebuild values and preference based routines. See Eating Disorders.

How long until I feel different

Many clients feel more stable and self directed within 1 to 2 weeks as sleep improves and device and boundary rules hold. Consolidation continues over several weeks.

Is group work required

No. Our model is one-to-one as standard. Optional partner or family sessions are offered with your consent.

What if I also have anxiety or ADHD

We plan for co-occurrence: regulation skills, calendar hygiene, and device rules. Physician coordination if medications are involved. See Anxiety and ADHD.

How long should I plan for

Many clients begin with two weeks for stabilisation and extend in two to four week blocks to consolidate change.

How to start

Send a confidential enquiry. Share a concise outline of your situation and goals.
Book a pre-admission assessment. We map beliefs, routines, risks and practical needs via secure video.
Receive a tailored plan. We propose programme length, focus areas and next steps. Physician coordination if indicated.
Plan travel. We arrange your arrival and private ground transfer to the residence.
First 72 hours. Stabilise sleep, nutrition and routine while beginning focused work.
Step down. Continue with structured aftercare and practice at home.

Speak in confidence. If self esteem has slipped or you feel lost in your own life, contact Oasis Premium Recovery for a private, one-to-one plan in Spain.

One-to-one session mapping an identity belief tree and values plan
Boundary scripts and exposure ladder written beside a device charter
Morning light and movement checklist supporting a new routine
Calm bedroom suite with low light for evening wind down in Spain

Self-Esteem & Identity Recovery in Spain – Private, One-to-One Rehab